Feelings Are Temporary



I had a conversations yesterday with someone I don’t know well. I heard a litany of reasons why her business wasn’t where she wanted it to be. I just listened.

At the end she said “I guess it boils down to this: I know what to do, but I don’t always want to do it.” All I could say was “Then that’s the root of your problem. What would you like to do about it?” Of course, the conversation went from there, but I’ve been thinking about it ever since.

The fact is this: the only way forward is to do the work! There is no easy button or shortcut.

The reality is that you will be tired today, and you will be tired a year from now as well.

You may not “feel like it” today, and you won’t necessarily “feel like it” a year from now either.

In the end, you’ll need to make your peace with and remind yourself every single day that just because you don’t ‘feel’ like it, doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Mel Robbins (my new girl-crush) said it this way:

The way that our minds are wired and the fact about human beings is that we are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult. Our brains are designed to protect us from those things, because our brains are trying to keep us alive. Your brain is wired to stop you at all cost from doing anything that might hurt you.

In order to change, in order to build a business, in order to be the best parent, in order to be the best spouse–to do all those things that you know you want to do with your life–you are going to have to do things that are difficult, uncertain, or scary
— Mel Robbins

Which sets up this problem for all of us: YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO FEEL LIKE IT.

I have found that making my peace with this reality is the first step. The second, is to have some structure in place, like time blocking, and taking account the need to schedule downtime, or play time as well. If this is a struggle for you, I plan on recording some videos in the future to share tips I’ve learned along the way. But for now, focus on and acknowledge that feelings are just that… feelings. They don’t have to dictate your life.

Go do the work. I’ll be cheering you on.